Through an online dating website, they met Jeremy, now a 38-year-old zookeeper. Eight years into their relationship, they jointly decided to explore the possibility of dating someone together. Jenkins was in his third year of residency at a Boston hospital in 2003 when he met his partner, Alan, now 43 and a San Diego clinical psychologist. “We want to remind everyone that love makes a family, and if it doesn’t look like the one next door, that doesn’t make it strange.” “It’s a bit amusing to me because we’re so domestic and ordinary,” he said.